Few Quotations

‘Happiness is such a bird, which flies away from thankless nests’ (AdeelKunwar)

‘The man who has no control over his tounge, is like a looser who wins in every round but fails at the last one’ (AdeelKunwar)

‘Even a goat and lion can be friends, if they have one thing in common, that is situation handling’ (AdeelKunwar)

 

 

Marriage is not an easy decission…….

There are few important things which should be settled before taking a final decission in selecting a wife.

1. Check the ideology of the girl about religion. Our religion Islam is for faithful believers, most of the things cannot be proved by logic, No one can prove why 1,24K Prophets were sent, why not 1,29K, and that  God exists, Sunnah of Propher of Islam(SAW), Quranic pricinples, their tafasir, timings of prayers and many more things which are based of faith and believe not on Logic or mind. 
2. Few girls believe that practicing religious obligations such as Salat, Quran, Fasting, Zakat, Hajj or Umrah are just secondary these things should be clear from the start, as these all things are ‘mandatory’ in Islamic shariah, if one doesnot practice them regularly thats a seperate thing, but believing them to be lesser important is another thing.
3. Approach about married life : This is the second most important thing to be clear, few girls have an idea of a romantic and happy family life and respect for husband and his family they are the ideal matches, there is a famous saying “give respect, earn respect” so such girls who give priority to their husbands eventually become house makers and earns Queen like status in their houses, Few girls might think else, they consider marriage just adding a new person and they prefer to continue their existing lifestyle, like job passion, career, education, free travelling abroad etc. All these things are permissible & there is No harm in continuing, but there should be a sense of responsibility in a girl after her married life.     The righteous wife has to take her husband consent in every walk of life, be it career or personnel goals,  Marriage brings changes in husband & wife life, now they are not the same boy & girl, They have added responsibility in their lives.
4. So if a girl has an ideology of ‘bringing a change’ in society, or spending days and nights at her work place  away from her family, kids & husband, she might achieve her career goal, but at the cost of her happy family life, these things should be discussed clearly and limits should be defined.
5. Marriage rituals and dowry :  The dowry and expensive gifts should not be demanded from a man’s family, these are also not recommended by Islam, but they should be discussed clearly before going for a marriage contract.Few girls and their families are very strict on it, thats a fine approach but its better to discuss it clearly in black and white so that complexities  should never happen. On the other hand if a bride’s family is against rituals, they should also be against ‘accepting’ gifts from groom’s family. there should be a transperency in ideas, no dual standards.
6. Situation Handling qualities : Overall a girl should be respectful and should have control on her language, means she should be a good situation handler, its very important that how a girl deals with her husband in future, If she is impulsive or aggressive, she might create problem and un-necessary confusions, if she listens & understands things, it will lead both to a happy life, on the other hand these fine qualities should also be present in a groom, he should be soft spoken and peaceful. Remember it is  not deeds, it is ‘words’ which destroys families.

Marriage is like a building, with the passage of time, it grows. You can assume that eachyear that passed adds a new ‘storey’ in the building, but the most important thing is first year. It gives a foundation for that building. Some fine moments, honeymoon few romantic talks will provide a strong foundation and in case of jolts of tremors, only those fine moments will hold the building. If there are no fine moments, the builiding no matter how old it is, will be in jeopardy.

Best of Luck, folks!

A morning in Medinah Munawwara!

Imam sahab was reciting verses from the glorious Quran and his voice was shattering with emotions,several
muqtadee’s in fajr prayer were also feeling the emotions and becoming dolorous, alluring voice of sheikh and Masjide Nabwi softened our hearts and wet out eyes.

Minates of Masjid e Nabawi SAW - Madinah

After Fajr prayer the crowd started moving towards the place where millions of angels arrive to deliver the salam by billions of muslims from all dimensions of this planet, the place is the Hujra’e Syeda Ayesha RA,where our beloved Prophet Hazrat Muhammad SAW is resting along with his two loyal companions, Syedna Abubakr and Syedna Umar RA.

The crowd passed through the face of Hujra quietly with great respect paying salam and durood in humble voices, scholars were present to abstain people
from doing any prohibited act or making noise, surely this is the place where a minor mistake can take a person away from Heaven.
Asalamo Alika Ya Rasoolallah, Ya Khatam-an-Nabiyeen!

Outside the mosque pleasent morning light was about to come, the weather was cool and clouds were among the audience, birds were present in a large number flying over the Haram, they too were anxios to pay Salam on the greatest of all creatures of the Almighty Allah!

Some people moved towards their residences while some started looking for breakfast, as most of them were present in the mosque since mid night,
but our eyes were on the historic graveyard Jannat ul Baqee.Walking in the direction of nose it is opposite to the Haram, facing the Bab-e-Jibrail,  approximately 200 meters away. The graveyard is closed for women but men are allowed to enter after Fajr and Asr prayers for limited time.

Jannatul Baqee

As we entered through the main gate, our eyes saw huge notice boards describing Sunnah method how to enter and behave in grayards.
Baqee is a huge graveyard, more than thousand years old, all the graves were simple with no identification signs or plot numbers,
every grave was reminding us the clearest truth in life, that is the end of life!
However few graves had boundaries of the demolished tombs which were present there some time ago, Baqee is the home of millions, yes  millions of Saleheen.
Many prominent Sahaba, Ummat-ul-Momineen,Ahle Bait, Imams, Awliya, Scholars and Shaheed are buried here during last 1400 years.
On right side from main entrance few graves were identified as Imam Hassan (RA) and Hazrat Abbas(Uncle of Prophet), moving towards left side the graves of Ummat tul Momineen (RA) can be found, ahead of it on left side has Imam Shafi and Imam Malik, and moving ahead towards centre has the grave of Hazrat Usman (RA) the third caliph of Islam.

Morning light and a view of Masjid e Nabwi - SAW

There was a scholar standing near the grave of Hazrat Usman, he was asking people not to raise hands and pray from the grave, when someone asks for dua for the deceased, the scholar replied it is even not confirmed cent per cent that this is the grave of the great Usman bin Affan, so i encourage you to pray for all.
One can imagine the ups and downs of Islam and initial days of Medinah while standing near those graves in Baqee, the simple outlook of the clay graves told us the hardships which our forefathers faced, the pious people burried in baqee spent their lives according to Quran and sunnah and were great examples of simplicity,loyalty and honesty.

Sunlight was coming from the patches of clouds and the Minates of Haram were glowing, Baqee gates were about to close, we slowly moved outside, after making a dua for all the pious Muslims burried.

RAK Marina

The blue water and white boats simply presents a splendid view.

Yatcht Club

Yatcht Club

RAK Marina

i don’t know why water and sun are so charming,  sometimes i think they attract me, but then i think they’re equally attracted to everyone,  a camera click can capture the scenes, but it cannot produce the image which our eyes are able to capture!  Leave this philosophy and see the picture !

Splendid Sun

Another sunset, this time its blurred, but i was trying to capture the moving vehicle into the frame, which i managed to!

another boat in yatcht club Marina

Just Mountains

Jabal Hafeet

Jabal Hafeet is located near Oman border, south east of UAE. The dry mountains reminds about our Baluchistan mountainous areas. Road infrastructure is well build and organized, the only attraction here is the Jebel Hafeet mountain which gives a location to view Al-Ain city and Oman area on the other side.

Dry mountains and Sunset

after SunSet

The absolute quietness of mountains presents a lovely view,  in Quran Mountains are defined as Sign of our  creator Allah Almighty.

Absolute quitness

some pictures..some feelings!

Killers on Road

The easiest task in Pakistan is to obtain a “Driving License”. Every one who is capable of holding blue and green papers in purse with Quaid’s picture fulfills the pre-requisite of getting the mighty driving license, i remember when i was in college a student who was just 15 years old, was driving his fathers car in street and he drove his car on a two years old kid, who was killed on spot unfortunately.   The young killer when caught said casually that he thought that a kitten came under his car! For me the killer was not only the one behind starring, the blood of small ‘kitten’ was also on the neck of the negligible father as well as one who awarded the driving license, in other words license to kill.

In civilized countries obtaining a driving license is more or less equivalent to earning a university degree, everyone has to pass through a tough procedure to get a driving license, the final assessment by traffic authority is as tough as rock breaking stuff, but for our nation, its like peanuts. The consequence of this is a series of blood spitting accidents on our roads, no day passes when we don’t read a horrific news of road accidents, captions like Passenger coach hits trolley, speedy bus kills motorist, car smashed by train and most recently the unfortunate town of Mian chunnu faced an unforgettable accident, a school van carrying innocent kids was smashed by a train. Media has highlighted two reasons for this accident, one that the driver was unable to see the train due to poor visibility because of fog, second there was no barrier on railway track.

Both are true , the Railway ministry is responsible and should be responsible as absence of barrier on railway track is a crime, but what about the poor driver who did not bother to stop the van just to ensure that there was no object coming towards him, because of fog he might not be able to see the train which was seconds away from him, but why he didnot hear the sound of roaring engine. We can blame anyone but this is a fact that traffic mis-management and poor road planning is causing hundreds of deaths every year, sometimes i think for our ruling class every one who died on road is not more than just a …..kitten!

Gwadar, the golden gate

Gwadar port is the third major sea port of our nation. The Gwadar port is the only deep sea and warm water port of Pakistan. The location is simply ideal, it is situated at the entrance of oil rich gulf and giving way to the mighty Indian ocean. Strategically the location is also important. The sea route from any Chinese port to Gwader is extended upto thousands of miles, the land route from karakoram road to gwader is just 2500 Km, same way it can provide a very easy route to Russia and the ex-russian states to the warm waters through Afghanistan. The development has been in progress and the port was formally inaugurated in Dec’2008, but the golden gate is still waiting for the investors.

It just requires an initial investors confidence, that their money and lives are safe, than Gwader can become the real golden gate for Pakistan. Our government is too much busy with their political rivals, but if they manage to provide security to this small area with initial investment and if they encourage over seas Pakistanis to invest their, I don’t think there would be any hurdle to stop this land to become prosper. Each and every government faces political crisis, but it doesn’t mean that they stop doing work, only will power and right direction is required.

The Avatar experience

I was about to put the ‘Black glasses’ for 3D cinema, i was sure that the movie would be awesome, the name James Cameron is ample for any movie lover to wait in a long queue, purchase an expensive ticket and decide to spend three hours in cinema.Within 20 minutes,i realized that my decision was absolutely right. The special effects, animations, and action each and every thing was so perfect and awesome that the word ‘Jaw dropping’ or ‘mind boggling’ seemed smaller. Each and every scene was welcomed by a big ‘hoooo’ by the audience. Above all the story line was very good, normally every movie in Hollywood is based on special effects and action, most of them have weak story line but James Cameron has maintained his track by holding a very strong story line n Terminator2,Titanic and now Avatar.Though its difficult choose, but the best scene was the dragon’s flight.

This movie will take you out of this world for three hours; i might watch it once again.

Thank you James, you’ve once again won our hearts.

Entertainment goes Fancy

PTV Drama

Once upon a time, we were fortunate to have PTV, it even exists today but has lost its soul for which it was part of our family ‘once upon a time’. The Ptv drama’s were near to life, which were realistic & entertaining as well, people were hooked with the TV set, specially during the drama hour, most famous serials were ‘Waris’, ‘Dhoop Kinarey’, ‘Ankahi’ and the list goes on. During early 80’s & early 90’s PTV saw its golden time, the last flick was from talented Shoaib Mansoor ‘Alpha Bravo Charlie’ which broke all commercial records in 1998. After that our television set was bombarded with dozens of Channels & hundreds of drama’s, the TV industry was so commercialized that they forgot the viewers, now fancy dresses, houses like castles, jewelry, glamour, brand new cars, branded suiting has replaced the core of drama which was script once upon a time. Eventually the dramas became unpopular among the masses and the talk show hosts took masses like Pied piper. The drama’s are now focused on land lords, industrialists & elite class, Today’s drama shows that all the people in this county are very rich, living in luxurious houses with all fantasies of life, this is something out of reality, most of the people live on a line just above poverty & far below luxury, As the modern drama give up the issues of common man, the common man has also given up watching these serials, because after watching life as un restrained fantasy the common man’s contentment is vaporized, the fall of TV drama’s is not only the void of entertainment for the common man, it is somehow linked with the sad demise of film industry as well, the thing known as “lolly wood” comprises of some seasonal kind of people, who call themselves artists, producing vulgar items which they call films, Thus for a common man in Pakistan, entertainment stuff which was already limited is now either vulgar or irrelevant. Both the movies & drama’s are not focusing common man in their scripts, movies revolve around thugs and whores, drama’s focus on the elite class.